“We used the spare room because it felt less personal although we lay and cuddled afterwards. It felt staged and undressing was very unsexy. “I stood in the kitchen and offered a drink but we both knew why we were there. The pair went back to her house, which she says was awkward. "Neither of us drank because alcohol can interfere with fertility so I was thinking straight.” “Carl said I could change my mind but I didn’t want to as I was ovulating. Their meal, she says, felt like a date with sex guaranteed. She felt having sex with him would boost her chances of conceiving and decided to go down the natural insemination, or NI route. She didn’t get pregnant that way but when she found Carl on a website for AI and after chatting to him, he offered to sleep with her. She was pleased when he told her he was healthy and had a masters degree – but had no way of proving any of it, of course.īefore meeting Carl, she tried artificial insemination – known as AI – twice. Yet, before sleeping with Carl, she only knew the basic details – that he was single, had two children from a previous relationship and wanted more without having any responsibilty for them. “If anything is wrong with my baby health-wise I can go back and ask the donor for their genetic history but otherwise there will be no more contact with him. “I want to choose the characteristics that may get passed to my child,” she says. She doesn’t want to pick up a man in a bar and have a one-night stand either. “I’m not wasting any time chasing a relationship when I could be trying for a baby.” “I’ve been using these donor sites for two years,” says Sarah. Yet they risk STDs and other health and psychological threats by doing so.Īfter dinner with Carl, she took him home for sex, with the one and only intention of conceiving a child. Traditionally, sperm donor sites link single women, lesbian or infertile couples with men willing to donate samples through artificial insemination.īut rising numbers of women are now using donor sites to arrange to have sex with strangers because it is assumed that intercourse increases their chance of conception. Sarah, 42, met Carl, 35, through a website called – one of a host of new sites advertising sperm donors. In reality, there was anything but romance on the cards. Chatting in a restaurant by candlelight, you would be forgiven for thinking Sarah* and Carl* were on a date.
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